"We are born with only one born with one obligation - to be who we are. Yet how much of our time is spent comparing ourselves to others, dead and alive? This is encouraged as necessary in the pursuit of excellence. Yet a flower in its excellence does not yearn to be a fish and a fish, in its unmanaged elegance does not long to be a tiger. But we humans find ourselves always falling into the dream of another life. Or we secreetly aspire to the fortune or fame of people we don't really know. When feeling badly about ourselves, we often try on other skins rather than understand and care for our own." - Mark Nepo
I've thought a lot about this and this year, I am focused on caring for myself and making myself a better person. Sometimes it's embarassing to put it on paper but I think writing it down often makes it clearer for me and reminds me to own it. I want to be a calmer, more patient mother, a more supportive wife, a thoughtful friend. Instead of wishing I had more (time, money, vacations, spa days, organic foods, material things) fill in the blank, I am making 2013 the year I am focused on what I have and being grateful for all those things. We all have so much yet in the day to day, as I've discussed so many time, we take those things for granted because life gets in the way. Back in November, I talked all about our Gratitude Journal, which we are now doing all year long because there is so much wonder in our current lives, why aren't those things celebrated all year long? It's a process but I think it's important to give ourselves credit and realize that we are enough and we must accept that we need to "be enough" to truly be happy in our lives. When we are always wishing that we had more, were like someone else and were in a different place, we simply are missing out on what we have....and delaying our journey on getting exactly to where we want to be.
So, this year, I'm going to be more confident and worry less about what other people think about the choice I make for my family and myself. I want to focus on really changing some of the qualities that I don't love about myself (instead of wishing I was more like someone else) and hope to make some positive changes that will ultimately lead me on my journey to the life I want. I am doing this for myself, which I think is an important distinction. As people, we often change for others and I think that can lead to failure. This time the changes I aspire to are for myself and with the hope, it will only make me a better person...and happier people around me.
I would love to hear thoughts on this? Are you in a happy space? Are there things in 2013 that you are doing to help you reach your dreams? Where do you start?